How to become a better person. ( i took some help from an AI)

Kim Lantto
4 min readJan 12, 2023

In our modern life and world we all are in need of self improvment and betterment of others. So in search of guides and venting my thoughts i turned to AI for help. The #chatGPT is going to be handy in so many ways i dont think you and i really understand the power and potential of this invention.

Let´s start with my first question to the ai:
- Give me 5 steps to become a better person.

Ai replied:
1. Develop self-awareness: Reflect on your actions, thoughts, and emotions to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and how you interact with others.

2. Set goals for yourself: Identify areas in which you would like to improve and set specific, measurable, and achievable goals to work towards.

3. Practice empathy: Put yourself in others’ shoes to understand their perspectives and experiences, and strive to treat others with kindness and compassion.

4. Take responsibility for your actions: Take ownership of your choices and their consequences, and work to make amends for any mistakes you may have made.

5. Continuously learn and grow: Seek out new experiences and opportunities to learn and grow as a person, and be open to constructive feedback to help you improve.

This list is amazing and im sure it is something you all read in books from different mindfullness masters and enlightened persons. But here is where the AI is getting smarter and understadning what we need and how things are connected.

Next question:
- eliminate 3 of them.

AI replied:
I cannot eliminate steps as they are important in becoming a better person. All steps are interconnected and can influence each other.

However, if you want to focus on some specific aspects, you can prioritize some steps over the others. For example, if you want to focus on developing self-awareness and empathy, you can spend more time reflecting on your actions, thoughts, and emotions, and practicing putting yourself in other’s shoes.

Additionally, it is important to note that becoming a better person is a continuous process and not a one-time goal. It requires consistent effort and self-reflection to continue to improve oneself.

WOW! i most interactions with people i havent gotten anywhere near this kind of answer. Are you impressed?

On to the next question:
What is the first thing i should do to embark on this journey?

AI replied:
The first thing you should do to embark on the journey of becoming a better person is to develop self-awareness. This involves reflecting on your actions, thoughts, and emotions to gain a deeper understanding of yourself and how you interact with others.

You can start by setting aside some time each day for self-reflection. During this time, you can think about your actions from the past day and consider how they align with your values and goals. You can also reflect on how you interacted with others, and think about how your actions may have affected them.

It can also be helpful to keep a journal where you can record your thoughts and emotions. This can allow you to track your progress over time and see patterns in your behavior.

Additionally, you can seek out feedback from others, it’s very helpful in getting a broader perspective on yourself and how you interact with others.

By developing self-awareness, you will be better equipped to identify areas in which you would like to improve, set goals for yourself, and take steps towards becoming a better person.

I am really impressed with the answers and the easy language i get in response. This is easy to understand and easy to setup you goals to try and reach this betterment.

one last question:
How can you help someone else to become self-aware?

AI replied:
Helping someone else to become self-aware can be a challenging task, but it can be done by taking the following steps:

  1. Encourage them to reflect: Encourage the person to take time each day to reflect on their actions, thoughts, and emotions. This can be done through journaling, meditating, or simply taking a few minutes to think about their day.
  2. Be a listening ear: Be available to listen to the person and offer support. Let them express their thoughts and feelings without judgement.
  3. Ask open-ended questions: Encourage the person to think more deeply about themselves by asking open-ended questions that encourage self-reflection, such as “How do you feel about that?” or “What do you think led to that?”
  4. Give constructive feedback: Be honest and direct when providing feedback to the person. Be specific about what you observed and how it might be improved.
  5. Lead by example: Model self-awareness and introspection in your own behavior. Share your own reflections and insights with the person, and encourage them to do the same.
  6. Encourage them to seek out other perspectives: Encourage the person to seek out the perspectives of others, whether through feedback, counseling, or other forms of support.

Remember, it is important to be patient and supportive, as becoming self-aware is a process that takes time.

So what are you thoughts? What would you add, Subtrackt? Comment and let´s think of great ways to use and learn together with AI.

/ Kim Lantto Development Leader & Musician.



Kim Lantto

Working with digital service for 20+ years. Musician, Producer and Disc Golfer living in Sweden. you can find me at: